


我在想我的群體是甚麼呢﹖我想到了教會、加拿大/香港、音樂等等。
在舊教會裡頭,侍奉多年...最大磨擦的是,我經常堅持我的敬拜隊員要準時出席練習、要寫靈修日記、要出席每個月的敬拜隊祈禱會...要...要....要....等等!然而,有不少執事都認為,我在攬權我沒有將主權交給神!這一點...我還未搞清楚,到底將主權交出是否真的等於不用人為努力﹖為什麼感覺好像廢人一樣!﹖
加拿大vs香港,從小已經感覺無根,雖然我為自己是身在香港的中國人感到光榮自豪,卻沒有土生土長的感覺。反而加拿大只是待了幾個幾年,卻給我家的 感覺。然而,回到香港待了幾個幾年,再次踏足加拿大時只像一個陌生的家!我想兩個地方都塑造了今天的我,但是我也不知道到底那一部分屬於那個群體。
古典音樂人的群體孕育不少我的價值觀與性格:凡事不可以看表面、積極樂觀、世上沒有解決不了的難道、做事要盡力更要盡心、力求完美、將心比己等等。
而流行音樂人的群體,簡單來說便是香港樂壇,除了加強了古典音樂人給我的價值觀與性格等等,更灌輸我凡事都要付出更沒有不勞而獲的事。
初初也會覺得,為什麼有人願意用身體去作交易呢﹖就像竊聽者的女主角般:舞台是藝人的生存空間,當政府連文化藝術都一一控制,本身還可以婉轉拒絕,當官員看上她希望得到其身體的時間。她深深知道她拒絕的報酬是絕對全面封殺,她更知道她沒有還價的能力,因為舞台是她唯一生存空間。除非她發現了/有人願意提供另一個舞台,在戲中就是他男朋友的愛!雖然我不認同其價值觀與行為,但我不能無視別人的 “身不由己”!我寧願用力讓她發現有別的舞台,也不願奪去她唯一的舞台 。
最近鬧得滿城風雨的不雅照片一事,不論去到那裡彷彿都有人談論或研究其報紙雜誌。自己曾經是半個音樂人,樂壇有多敗壞我又豈會不知!但是只是想提出的是…不論你會好奇地去看去收集相片短片,或是看反感無比覺得女性受侵害,到底你有多了解整個故事呢﹖就這件事而言,男主角一定是變態壞人嗎﹖女主角一定是淫娃蕩婦﹖重要的是,當我看見連報紙封面每天都是其故事,我完全覺得是香港人的悲哀,甚至有些同事連中國內地災情豪不知情更豪不關心,我絕對卑視這種人。
寫了一大堆.....我也不知道自己是否在答問題!﹖@_@
Ginny ^O^ God IS Love not equal to God POSSESS Love

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2.
the groups I have worked/interacted with so far have subconciously
helped mould my personality. I have experienced most of the points
mentioned in the passage eg. 灌注希望, 同坐一條船的感覺, 找到仿效的對象.
For example, I learn from my teachers/seniors to be confident about
myself and not to be so self-centred as to think everyone is focusing
on me and on me only.
In response to the question:
請除了以家庭或教會或朋輩中為例外,也嘗試以「香港人」或
- 某個群體的特點價值和文化是怎樣的(群體的性格)? 哪些是我認同的? 哪些是我與之分別的? (我的性格)
A particular group that I can immediately think of is the fans of 鍾欣桐.
Yesterday, 鍾欣桐 publicly apologized in front of the press and there was
a large group of her fans supporting her. Those fans of course are
treating 鍾欣桐 as their idol or else they wouldn't be present at the
press conference. I agree with the fact that these fans are forgiving
her for her past mistakes because as in this case actually 鍾欣桐 is
already burning with shame for having been discovered doing this
immoral act and it makes it even more difficult if others don't
understand/forgive her. But I don't agree that they support and 'love'
鍾欣桐 no matter what she does in the future and continue to take her as
their idol/role model.
3.
Yes. Through interacting with different groups, I have come to
understand that I cannot stand people who are being fake. I also know
that many of my preconceptions about other people may not be 100%
correct and it takes time and patience before I can get to know the
person better.

家人-
家人- 小時候性格較橫蠻,家人的開朗和隨和性格對我影響很大,使我內心變得更平和、脾氣更溫和。而且,小時候很需要朋友,模仿他們就是一個最容易的方法,學習與別人相處。
朋友- 我的朋友很多都是童軍的隊友,一起開會、籌辦活動使我在處事上更決斷。他們代人處事的態度亦使我更為積極,主動參加更多活動。
香港人- 我是一個土生土長的「香港人」,身為香港人,學到香港人的急速節奏和拼博精神,身邊例子比比皆是,如醫生日以繼夜的開工和辦公室行政人員開OT等。
其實,我一直以來並沒有什麼愛國愛港的意識。直至近來參加了「爭取提高綜援大行動」的遊行活動,才開始加深香港各個組織的認識和弱勢社群的些微了解,看到他們主動參與遊行、爭取應有的東西的勇氣,令我學會更主動爭取東西,亦明白團結的力量。